The dynamic of Lourdes and Pilar’s relationship
Exploring the significance of Pilar and Lourdes relationship through Pilar’s inner monologue in Cristina Garcia’s “Dreaming in Cuban”
Cristina Garcia’s 1992 “Dreaming in Cuban” deals with the consequences of the 1979 Cuban Revolution, such as the separation of Cuban families. Even if the Puente family is not physically separated, Lourdes and Pilar do have some disagreements because of their ideologies about Cuba. This passage is rooted at the beginning of the story, as Pilar arrives to her cousin’s house, Blanquito. Pilar is on the run for Cuba and she imagines her mother’s reaction (on page 63). This passage focuses on Pilar’s determination to go back to Cuba, despites her mother’s opinion. The process of narrating in Pilar’s monologue effectively sheds a light on Pilar’s desire as well as the dynamic of Pilar’s relationship with her mother. The use of antithesis, double-meaning and associations portrays Pilar confronting her mother’s ambiguous personality. Thus, Pilar’s monologue reveals that Cuba appears as the missing part to affirm Pilar’s own identity and the remedy for her relationship with Lourdes.
By depicting Lourdes through the use of animalistic similes, Pilar’s inner monologue intensifies her mother’s ambiguous reactions. After discreetly sitting on Blanquito’s lounge chair and imagining her mother’s reprimands, Pilar juxtaposes two metaphoric images of her mother. On the one hand, her mother’s physical appearance parallels an authoritarian figure with evil connotations, as “she can look like the gods guarding hell” (63). On the other hand, Pilar underlines Lourdes’ inoffensive and powerless personality, as “[Lourdes] sounds more like a terrier or a Chihuahua” (63). By using animals from opposite tempers, Pilar ironizes Lourdes’s overreactions. This opposition thereby appears more as an antithesis, because it visualizes Pilar’s own perception of Lourdes’s personality. In other words, by mocking her mother’s reaction through an antithesis statement, Pilar implicitly spells out her own doubts or inability to understand her mother’s ambiguous personality. Thus, this derision of Lourdes’ behaviour suggests that the dynamic of their relationship is fed by a lack of communication on behalf of Lourdes and Pilar.
While Pilar’s inner monologue implicitly sheds a light on her own thoughts concerning her mother’s ambiguous personality through the use of animalistic antithesis, the ignorance of double meaning echoes Pilar’s rejection of her mother’s principles. As Pilar still imagines her mother’s reaction, Pilar recreates Lourdes’s discourse: “You [Pilar] can’t compare yourself to me [Lourdes] |…] I work fourteen hours a day so you [Pilar] can be educated “(63). This comparison implicitly suggest that Lourdes works the more she can in order to pay school for Pilar. Lourdes then appears as a devoted mother. Nonetheless, as Pilar asks the following rhetorical question “so who’s comparing?” (63), Pilar choses to reject her mother’s help. By ignoring the idea that Lourdes is involved on her education, Pilar indirectly refuses her mother’s work ethic principles. It is also suggested that Pilar refuses to be confined by her mother; Pilar needs her own independence, as she is looking for her own identity. thus, Pilar’s rejection of her mother’s morals shapes their relationship, as the serpent biting its own tail; the more her mother will try to instil morals or principles to Pilar, the more Pilar will move away from her mother.
In addition to the mother-daughter relationship dynamic partly based on rejections and objections depicted by the ignorance of double-meaning, the use of associations illustrated in Pilar’s inner monologue constantly depicts her thoughts about Cuba and her mother. Effectively, by spontaneously “guess[ing] [she is] one of those things [her mother] can’t change” (63), Pilar’s inner monologue leads two opposite meanings. For example, this association does not picture Pilar as the victim concerning the dynamic of her relationship with her mother, rather Pilar considers herself as the culprit. Pilar indirectly acknowledges that she may be one of the reasons why her mother is frustrated. In this sense, she indirectly confesses questioning herself as being one of the constant sources of her mother’s torments. Nonetheless, the association of Pilar to “those things” gives an idea of certainty as well. This association of Pilar to “those things” then puts forward Pilar’s self confidence; she refuses to submit to her mother concerning her decision to go back to Cuba. Both possibilities indirectly spell out that the problem of their relationship is not rooted in Pilar herself. The problem between them is rather rooted on Lourdes’ fear of confronting her past, as Pilar will inevitably dig it up by returning to Cuba. Besides, by comparing Lourdes’ reputation in both Cuba and the US, Pilar underlines Lourdes’ blindness concerning Lourdes’ self-awareness: “Back in Cuba, everybody used to treat Mom with respect. […] These days, all the neighbourhood merchants hate her” (63). This comparison points out how Lourdes is despised in a place, where she idealises the American dream. It also underlines Lourdes’ unhappiness, as she has to leave Cuba because of the revolution. This comparison then reinforces Pilar’s disapproval of staying in the US, because on the one hand her mother refuses to deal with her inner struggles. On the other hand, this comparison motivates Pilar to return to Cuba in order to find herself as well as to bring peace to her mother. Thereby, it is suggested that the dynamic of their relationship is more tormented by the geographical place, than Pilar and Lourdes themselves. Cuba appears as the key to save their relationship as well as the Pilar’s affirmation of herself.
According to the antithesis, which echoes Pilar’ uncertain perception of Lourdes, the ignorance of double-meaning in Lourdes’s discourse, as well as the associations articulated around Pilar and Lourdes, the layout of Pilar’s inner monologue appears as a portrayal of her determination to go back to Cuba. The use of implicit language also articulates Pilar’s possible doubts and Pilar’s determination. In other words, it is suggested that Pilar and Lourdes both embodies ambiguities. This monologue reveals that the source of the remedy is also the source of their torments; both of them will go back to Cuba. Pilar will affirm herself and Lourdes will free herself. Pilar’s monologue reveals the importance of nation, or the feeling of belonging to construct one’s self.